BReconciled!

Marriage /// Part I: For better or for worse
“Mawwiage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam within a dweam…” (The Princess Bride)

Yeah, for about 5 seconds! Marriage isn’t always some nice, fluffy dream; it also takes blood, sweat, and tears (probably more of the latter)! It really is for better or for worse. But for every tough moment there’s a just as amazing moment. There will be storms, but there willl be rainbows as well. Now, I have zero first-hand experience in this area (marriage), but I’ve thought in depth about it and it’s a topic that’s often on my mind. I mean, that’s a commitment of your life to someone! Many people think that marriage is an answer to their problems-but it’s not a solution, it’s a magnifying glass! You’re going to know this person so well that disagreements, annoyances, and frustrations are bound to happen (as with anyone you get close to). But marriage creates a bond unlike any other: it’s friendship set on fire, it’s a lifelong partnership, and it’s worth the hard work. I was talking to my mom about marriage, and she said that over time you really do become best friends because of the intimacy you share. You really don’t have that with anyone else. I think that is amazing!!

I definitely want to marry my best friend that I also think is attractive, not the other way around [[character before looks]]. So I better make sure I pick the right man(!), because while romance is amazing and totally God’s idea (and it is definitely possible to keep it alive), it’s not enough to sustain an entire marriage. So when all the fire of youth & the honeymoon stage is gone, you’d better be sure you want to be with this person as a friend, you know what I’m saying?

Marriage is a bit daunting to me, and exciting at the same time. I know I have years before I have to think about all that, but its good to get it into my mind now that marriage is not the wedding; a wedding’s just the beginning of two lives becoming one. For a wedding lasts a day, but a marriage lasts a lifetime. I think many people (especially girls) don’t think about the marriage as much as they do the wedding. When I first hear the word “marriage”, I think white dresses and pretty hair and good cake (haha), but it actually looks more like holding the bucket for your beloved to barf into when they’re sick & still loving them on their worst hair day or when they forgot to separate the whites from the reds in the wash or even if they eat that piece of pie you were saving. I’m just messing. If those were the only disagreements in marriage there would be a lot less divorce in the world! I guess what I’m trying to say is that staying with the person no matter what the circumstance is what marriage comes down to. Staying committed, for better or for worse.

In the original creation, God made male and female to be together. Because of this, a man leaves father and mother, and in marriage he becomes one flesh with a woman—no longer two individuals, but forming a new unity. /// Mark 10:6-7